ON SHEDDING
Do you struggle to release things, people and places that no longer serve you?
Does it pain you a great deal to see that some relationships have changed shapes and are no longer what they once were?
Letting go can be exciting, as we clear a space for new energy and possibilities.
But this process is not pain-free.
On your life path, you will have many enriching encounters.
People come into your life for either a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Some are here to deliver a spiritual lesson, some stays for a period where it is mutually- nourishing.
Despite our culture of monogamy and myths about a soulmate, not everyone you cherish is meant to be there forever.
You are a fast moving machine in a world that does not always keep up.
Because of the speed by which you absorb and process ,
your life is one extreme adventure after another.
You see, learn, and know too much, rather than not enough.
Personal and spiritual growth comes to you at lightning speed.
And you feel like an old soul even at a young age.
These traits are not positive or negative; they are your natural makeup.
One day, you find yourself battling with boredom, restlessness, existential angst, a sense of unfulfillment.
Suddenly, you realise that people, groups and places that were once electrifying no longer satiate your curiosity and drive.
You look back, only to find yourself — yet again, and painfully— outgrowing your friends, family, and intimate partners.
You now face a daunting dilemma.
You are a heart- centred being who naturally love fiercely and give yourself without holding back.
Union, loyalty and devotion are your virtues.
So, even when a partnership is no longer what it once was,
the grief of letting go feels unbearable.
You think exiting means you are mean, selfish and arrogant.
Departing feels like betraying.
Society’s judgement might have deterred you.
But what’s more frightening is the prospect of eternal aloneness:
"What if this keeps happening?"
"Do I belong anywhere?"
"Where is my root, tribe, family, and community?"
Your soul knows that staying in relationship or partnership that has passed its season only creates suffering not just for yourself but also everyone involved.
Your truth will scream at you.
It may start with a still small voice; if ignored, it screams progressively louder in the form of psychic and physical pain.
As a sensitive person, you are especially sensitised to the hypocrisies of pretending something is what they no longer is.
However unconsciously, the other person knows it too. Sometimes, they even resort to passive-aggressive manoeuvres— so you can push them away and release them.
It is not only beneficial but may be your responsibility to be the bigger person- the one who end things, the one who declares exit, the one who gets scapegoated and blamed.
Grieving and releasing is temporarily painful, but this is a growing pain, a shredding pain, the kind of pain one experiences when breaking through a womb-like cocoon and bursting in beauty with wings.
Ultimately, authenticity and courage will set you free, and everyone, including your future self, will thank you in the end.
Love and faith.
Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” —Chinese Proverb
THIS WEEK’S EXPERIMENT: RELEASING
Prepare a few pieces of paper in different colours.
Draw or write on each of them things that no longer have a place in your life, or what you would like to release.
It could be anything from a person to a work relationship, a co-dependency, an addiction, or a habit.
Reflect on what makes you hold onto them, and write that on the flip side of the paper.
Prepare your mind to release them, and imagine what life would be like without them.
To release, you may burn, rip, or bury these papers. Do this slowly, pay attention to your body and your breathing during the process.
Set an intention to honour the connection you have with these people/ relationships/ thoughts, and then let them go.
Congratulate yourself for allowing yourself to move towards freedom and lightness.