TRUSTING OUR PERFECT PROCESS

Learning to trust our process is one of the most valuable lessons in life.

We must learn to trust that at any given moment, we are doing the absolute best we could. 

It sounds like a cliche statement, but few of us wholeheartedly practise such faith in ourselves, especially when our society is proliferated with ideas to help us ‘fix ourselves’.

The psychology and self-help world tell us if we could discipline ourselves enough, be strong-willed enough, we could get rid of all the ‘bad’ things we do.

If we could trust our process, and have faith in ourselves in any given moment, there will be no room for regret, and no ground for self-criticism. 

We could stay present in any given moment, and take the next step with wisdom, calm and ground under our feet. 

Sometimes our behaviours do not make much sense on the surface.

We become frustrated with ourselves for the many things we do.  

We think we had overeaten, drank too much, not worked enough, not done enough. 

We fear we are attached to the thing we wish to be free from.

We worry we are too dependent on someone.

No matter how much we criticise ourselves for it, we are not able to do any otherwise. 

Or, when we finally make the change, we beat ourselves up for not having made changes sooner.

We often do not see the full picture and jump to doubting, judging or criticising our actions. 

The reality is, we could not possibly have done anything other than what we did.

We did our best yesterday, and we are doing our best today. 

What on the surface looked like a compulsive act was an intuitive decision.

What we thought of as an unhealthy addiction was the best coping method we had to survive. 

What we saw as an indulgence was a necessary self-soothing behaviour we needed to keep going. 

Whatever it is that we have done, there were reasons— even when we cannot yet see the logic of it.

This does not mean we will keep doing the same thing.

The future is presented with endless possibilities and alternative routes. 

And we will change course when the timing is ripe. 

There is no need to drown in regret, for we had not done anything wrong. 

We had not overspent, overeaten, overslept, or over anything. We did what we needed to do.

We had not done too little, procrastinated, helped too little, or gave too little. We offered the most we could.

All that we have done was perfect for that moment in time. 

And all that we do now is also perfect. 

Trust the process, and trust your unconscious, self- regulating mechanism to do the work.

Then, you could we worry-free, for no matter what step you take next

It will be the perfect one. 

“I have come to accept the feeling of not knowing where I am going. And I have trained myself to love it.” 
― C. JoyBell C.

THIS WEEK’S EXPERIMENT: poetry reading

Find the poem Instructions by Neil Gaiman. Allow your mind to visualise as you read the words.

At the end of the reading, create a scribble, and write some notes about what your experience.