Release Attachment

There are those days

Where you feel weak, and fearful, and sad.

Nothing disastrous has happened. 

But you care too much about something to not feel paralysed by the fear of losing them.

You are too passionate about life to not feel the angst over an unknown future. 

Here is what you do: 

You Let go. 

Let go, let go, let go. 

Radically let go of everything that matters, of wanting any particular kind of outcome.

Surrender to the possibility of losing all that you care about.

You are free when you return to zero:

When you remember that you came to the world with nothing and will leave with nothing. 

When you can love everything, and be attached to nothing. 

Let go as much as you can,

Then, let go of the fact that you cannot let go anymore. 

You are a child again, learning how to crawl. 

And so you wobble forward.

Wobble, wobble, wobble, one step at a time

With all the vulnerability and tenderness, all the impending losses, sickness and death. 

Suddenly, you turn around and realise that 

Things cannot be any better or worse. 

And you are not alone in this strange predicament we call life.

“Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth” 
― Pema Chodron

TODAY’S EXPERIMENT: LETTING THINGS FALL APART

Observe these words,  by Mary Oliver:

To live in this world

you must be able

to do three things:

to love what is mortal;

to hold it

against your bones knowing

your own life depends on it;

and, when the time comes to let it

go,

to let it go.

Think of something you hold precious. It could be as small as a mug you like, or as significant as a person, a career, your health, or a marriage.

Then, in your readiness, imagine losing what you hold precious.

It could be due to a conflict, an accident, or the natural cycle of life and death.

Allow yourself to visualise the situation in as many details as possible, allow your heart to be open to grief, fear and a myriad of complicated feelings.

Take some time to breathe after the exercise, and notice the rekindled love and gratitude for what you hold precious in life.